You’ve Found A Good Thing

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You’ve got to understand as a man that when you marry the girl of your dreams, she wants to remain that. Long after she’s left her girlhood behind, she wants to know you’ll still pursue her. She wants to know you’ll love her with the same intensity and still greater depth than you did in the first heady days of your courtship.

How is this possible? How in the drudgery of daily existence, the constant press of work, the struggle to survive, the demands of needy kids, or the drive for personal space can a man find meaningful time for his woman? How can their relationship not just exist but truly prosper? What part can a (seemingly) relationally-challenged man play in leading his family? How can two people iron out their differences until they’re smooth and work back and forth, giving and taking until they’re finally synchronous with each other? Is there a way to fight fair? In fact, is there a way to remove the “fight” altogether and turn it into temporary disagreement with a permanent recognition of underlying good will, respect, honor, and love?

The answer to all of this is you’re in control, man. You’re leading the dance and your wife loves it when you’ve got the right moves, even when she’s in disagreement with you. She loves your ability to make peace and diffuse situations. She is more sensitive than you and feels little hiccups in the relationship more than you do. She loves it when you take care of business, but only because it’s a subset of you taking care of her. Even when you’re feeling disrespected by her, you can know that what she really wants is your love, care, and provision. Walk the tightrope of treating her voice as equal and leading by careful example, and you will find yourself a good thing, an amazing, devoted, grateful, happy wife.

It can be done. If you’re struggling, you can do it. If you’re doing it, you can do it better. Life is a wicked winding road that’s far easier to travel with your best friend. With a little patience and a few techniques, the rough spots won’t wreck the ride.


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