How To Spell “Love” To Your Wife

Taken and summarized from Emerson Eggerichs’ excellent book, Love & Respect.  It’s spelled C-O-U-P-L-E.
  • Closeness:  She wants to know that whatever’s going on throughout your day, you’d rather be with her.
  • Openness:  She wants to know your thoughts and her mind-reader is broken.  Talk to her.  Open up to her so she can tell how you’re feeling.
  • Understanding:  She doesn’t necessarily need fixing, but she does need an ear to listen to her and a shoulder to lean on.
  • Peacemaking:  When you have conflict, she wants you to take the lead in making things better.  The percentages of guilt and blame aren’t the issues, the facts of love and good will towards her and the family are.
  • Loyalty:  She needs to be constantly reminded that you’re committed to her without a shadow of a doubt.  She needs to know you’re not even looking at another woman.
  • Esteem:  She wants to know she’s the most important person in your life and that what she thinks and feels is important to you.

And remember the Golden Rule of Marriage:  You can’t get what you need by withholding from your wife what she needs.  Give her what she needs and you’ll be amazed at the results.

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