Does It Feel Good?


For years we’ve heard, “If it feels good, do it”, and “It’s not hurting anybody so it must be alright”, and “You deserve a break today.”

Let me be clear here. I’m not opposed to feeling good, but not at the expense of doing good. Doing good is far more important than feeling good.

There are many who think that something is good because it feels good. They’re wrong. This is what babies do. Children do what feels good. Adults devise a plan and stick to it. Men especially need to be honorable enough to plan wisely, communicate their plans, and then keep their word.

There is much good to be done that doesn’t feel good in the doing. The self-sacrifice required to be a husband and father results in good, but nobody will tell you it feels good to be giving of yourself all the time. There are certainly times when I’d rather have some Me Time, but I’ve got to constantly make the grown-up decision not to. Why? Not because it feels good, but because it is good.

The kids need transporting, the broken needs fixing, the lights need to stay on, and the list goes on. When you’re the one in charge of making sure your family is running like a well-oiled machine, you don’t often have the option of doing what feels good. The family car requires maintenance or it will break down.

Luckily, men have some natural talents in that direction. I’m happy to go hunt, kill the Beast, and drag it home to my family.

It helps to keep in mind that sometimes the Beast looks a lot like dirty dishes or a pile of laundry.

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