Sep 30 2009

Franklyn

Aram

This is completely unrelated to anything having to do with marriage, except…

There are two quotes in that trailer by two different characters that jumped at me as soon as I heard them. They cut to the heart of our sense of The Individual. They bring home the primary way we can kill our marriage, namely thinking of ourselves first. Here they are.

If you believe in something strongly enough, who’s to say if it’s real or not?

and

When you’re lost, you’re willing to believe anything.

You got the first one, right? Every media outlet from Disney movies to television commercials tells you it doesn’t matter what you believe, only believe it strongly enough. It’s the ultimate in navel-gazing. Create your own reality and it’s real for you. Descartes put it this way, “I think, therefore I am.”

Thomas Aquinas knew different though. He knew that thinking presupposes being. You are, therefore you think.

The second quote is just in there because I liked it. It very simply shows what happens when you’ve got no concept of truth.

Think of the effect not knowing truth has on your marriage. What happens to your spouse when the only truth you acknowledge is that which is true for you? Does mutual agreement make something true? How do you resolve something that’s true for you but not for your spouse?