Jul 25 2009

Priorities

Aram

What’s really important?

Job? Kids? Wife? Friends? Yourself?

How do you tell what’s really important in someone’s life?

The two obvious ways are where they spend their money and how they spend their time.

I’ll only address time here. The time you have to do whatever you want. Where do you spend it?

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I find it interesting that most people have an innate sense of priority. We’re not just a set of behaviors, like cacti or frogs. People usually know when they’re putting the wrong things first. People have a moral sense. The reasons why bags of chemicals, protein, and water can tell the difference between right and wrong is the subject of a whole ‘nother topic, but for now suffice it to say that if we’re looking, it’s pretty obvious when we’re giving the wrong things too much preeminence in our lives.

I’d urge you to make your wife a priority in your life. You’re the one who married her for better or worse, remember? You’re the one who promised to love and honor her until death do you part, remember?

It’s good for us as men to recognize that our society is still pretty masculine. As a couple examples: most advertising by far is geared toward selling sex to men, and most positions of world and corporate power are held by men. Please keep in mind that your wife makes a daily choice to put her trust in you. She trusts that you’ll go out, kill something, and bring it home. She trusts that you’ll be able to hold adult conversation with her like you did back in 3 B.K. (Before Kids). She trusts that you’ll still care for her and pursue her like you used to.

Those are some high expectations, but they’re not unreachable goals. You’re pretty gifted that way already. There’s nothing that makes you feel like a man more than Taking Care of Business.

So what exactly does TCB look like? Well, I can’t tell you for your specific situations, but here are some helpful facts to apply:

  1. Your wife is more important than your stupid job.
  2. Your wife is more important than your stupid hobbies.
  3. Your wife is more important than your stupid kids.
  4. Your wife is more important than your stupid friends.
  5. Your wife is more important than your stupid self.

When you TCB with these important concepts in mind, the enduring respect you’ll get is worth the temporary pain caused by setting your priorities straight.

Speaking from personal experience, when you do finally set your priorities straight, you’ll find that your wife is unbelievably grateful.

We all know what the benefits of a grateful wife are…


Jul 19 2009

Where Are You?

Aram

Are you in a place where you can react to your wife with love, no matter how she’s acting toward you at the moment? Do you understand her basic good will toward you and you can recognize that whatever she’s going through will pass?

If you’re not at that place in your marriage yet, wouldn’t it be a good thing to shoot for?

She needs you to be a rock, no matter what happens. Your wife needs you to set the tone for your marriage and be steady. She needs to know she can count on you when times are tough.

That’s not always easy, but you can do hard things. Something I’ve found that helps me is the following little technique.

I use the times in my marriage when things are going great to prepare for when they’re not. It’s easy to make large deposits into my wife’s emotional bank account when things are going well in our marriage.

The tough times are easier to deal with when my wife’s “love tank” is full. It’s up to me to keep it that way.


Jul 8 2009

Google, Bringer Of Analytics

Aram

– Part 1 –

Go to Google, type in “why are men”, and see what Google suggests, based on popularity.  I’ll save you the trouble, here’s the result.  No lie, you’ll get this:

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Now to be fair, we must do the same thing with women, yes?

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I’m having a hard time finding things like “Why are men so dedicated” and “Why are women wonderful“.  Maybe I need new glasses.

Wouldn’t it be great if those search suggestions came up instead of the real ones though?